11/08/2011
I have just realized a few interesting facts about effective communication. First of all, in a disagreement, we should mainly focus on the other side rather than ourselves. This is feasible when we actively pay close attention to others and then give them a feedback to clarify or correct our perception regarding the situation. An apparent example concerning this is my father’s behavior when mam keeps on speaking unceasingly. Dad does not listen actively to mam and sometimes he uses you messages to condemn mam for her constant nagging. Now, I fully understand that lack of close attention can spark up a quarrel. Moreover, in an argument, we have to switch off our emotions and seek for data which is expressed by the other side. They should be encouraged to describe their opinion and feelings without any hesitation or fear.
Also, no one can make you feel unpleased or uncomfortable, because, if we rationally think about that, these hormones are produced by our body and we are not getting them from others.
Avoid asking questions which starts with Why; it is due to the ancient use of this word to target numerous scientific or philosophical queries. Hence finding a precise answer for these types of question is really challenging. Instead, use what, where, when, how and so on to get relevant, clear information which are helpful.
All of these techniques are required to practice in daily life and in real situation to cope with adversities. I used to think I can successfully apply all these techniques once I learnt them. But, ultimately I figured out these are not obtained overnight!!
Therefore take advantage of indian society to practice these skills because here is a real life laboratory which most doesn’t recognize this and are stuck in their routine.
Religious is true for common people, false for intelligentsia and useful for governors. (a quotation from a famous American historian).