Last night, when I was listening to the effective communication I realized a few fundamental points about the way our brain works. First of all, brain impulsively relies on its unconscious part (less energy consuming) at any situation to trigger a thought or idea or prediction which are based on specific patterns acquired by culture, parents and self-experience. Unluckily these perceptions are not precise or even right mostly. Subsequently, our behavior and communication form in close connection with these misleading thoughts where it ends up dissatisfying results or calamity.
However, there are effective techniques to hack our mind and get it under control. Basically, we shouldn’t let our brain solely to depend upon the unconsciousness but deliberately it should be switched to the consciousness in order to capitalize on problem-solving ability of our mind by analyzing what is really going down inside and outside. This means mindfulness and it requires a break prior to reacting spontaneously.
Next, we should respect and appreciate the other side through relying on merely our adult voice, neither parent voice nor child voice because it is not going to be effective and efficient.
Here, once again, we have to converse by appreciating comments and getting more data out of the conservation by meta-communication and close attention.
Moreover I have recently realized that our inner feelings about myself or others during conservation can profoundly affect the output of discussion.
Anyway, that argue has thrown new light on the better understanding of human behavior. it was a very enlightening experiment which dramatically improved my knowledge about brain function and human behavior.