I mentioned to a friend that the article I read that morning, Masters of Love on The Atlantic, appealed to be beyond the application of romantic relationships. The main premise of the article was on the act of kindness as the sustaining factor of long-term relationships. The author, with her rigorous research detailed the findings of one John Gottman.
Gottman's research proves that partners who reciprocate the other's need for attention, lead successful long term relationships. The determining factor, Gottman found, was the simple act of kindness.
“There’s a habit of mind that the masters have,” Gottman explained in an interview, “which is this: they are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully. Disasters are scanning the social environment for partners’ mistakes.”
If kindness is the holy grail for heterosexual relationships, I question it's application on the complicated yet imperative bond between women.
Interpretation of nonverbal gestures are undefined and often misinterpreted among women. Making communication and an environment to foster healthy friendships complicated. It's that we're all too good at being perceptive.
As primitive instincts call for competition among the gender, evolution demands cooperation. It is retrogress for feminism to cultivate an environment that negates respect. Yet, we live in a society where passivity and apathy are the common rhetoric.
Gottman's research proves that partners who reciprocate the other's need for attention, lead successful long term relationships. The determining factor, Gottman found, was the simple act of kindness.
“There’s a habit of mind that the masters have,” Gottman explained in an interview, “which is this: they are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully. Disasters are scanning the social environment for partners’ mistakes.”
If kindness is the holy grail for heterosexual relationships, I question it's application on the complicated yet imperative bond between women.
Interpretation of nonverbal gestures are undefined and often misinterpreted among women. Making communication and an environment to foster healthy friendships complicated. It's that we're all too good at being perceptive.
As primitive instincts call for competition among the gender, evolution demands cooperation. It is retrogress for feminism to cultivate an environment that negates respect. Yet, we live in a society where passivity and apathy are the common rhetoric.
